Thursday, May 16, 2013


I'm off from work since Ascension day and won't be back until the Tuesday after Whit Monday.

First we were going to go away with our campervan thingy (it's a VW bus that has a bed in it). Then we weren't because we needed to finish the house. Then we were going because I was not feeling well because of work and the house not being done. Then we weren't going because the house wasn't done. But by then I really needed to get away for a few days, not think about anything that's happening at the moment. So we decided to go away for half of it and do house work the other days, and day trips. Well...the weather has been horrible since Ascension day so we haven't been enjoying our holiday much. At least I haven't.

We left on Thursday evening (everything went wrong with packing and getting the bus ready) and returned on Monday just after noon. We visited Germany, Luxembourg, France and Belgium. We saw loads, enjoyed the view (from the car because it was not nice to walk), and shivered in the evenings because it was just so bleeping cold.

We planned to do a day thing on Tuesday and Thursday. But who wants to go to an amusement park if it's raining the whole time? So the only day we're doing something will be tomorrow, enjoying a day at a spa.

Haven't been doing much to get the house finished.

Got an interior designer for a bookcase in the old kitchen and a wardrobe in our bedroom. He visited well over two weeks ago and I had to e-mail him this week to get the offer. He made a graphic sketch of what we wanted and a separate offer, I send the sketches to a friend to ask how expensive she thought it would be. When I gave her the real numbers she was like Is it made out of crystal? For that price you'd suspect it to be but unfortunately no. Don't know how he got to that price. So we needed an alternative. Since it's so close to the kitchen and I want it made a "light" colours, we visited the company that supplied us our kitchen, to get the same kind of doors instead of an almost copy. They gave us a good deal, way better than the interior designer gave us. But I thought it was still expensive so I started to build it myself with an Ikea planner. I couldn't get it right but I found a bookcase that we'd need 2 of (and then have to add/adjust things to our liking) for slightly less than the kitchen company. But with the kitchen company it will be the same colour/material as our kitchen and it would be build in by them. With Ikea it would be slightly off from what we want, have to build it ourselves, and then put energy and more money into it to get it to our liking. So I'm guessing we're going with the kitchen company.

Will be weeks before we can confirm the offer though, since we have some pipes that need to be hidden and  the plasterer needs to pay us a visit as well.

The boyfriend already got a bit of the pipes removed and opened the wall of pipes that have to disappear or be hidden. However, he did that without covering anything. That room is adjacent to our kitchen, which I just had cleaned and also had drying dishes. Guess what....when I went into the kitchen to make dinner, it was completely covered in a small layer of dust.

As for work, which I'm not supposed to think about during my days off, is still so so. They've renewed my contract for a year, which is normal. One of my colleagues said that I should ask for a permanent one since that's what they promised me. But I'm trying it for one more year to see if things change.

I'm going to work 36 hours, which will result in alternating weeks of 4 workdays or 5 workdays. When I asked for the 36 hours (with the same pay), they also thought it would be an option to have a half day off per week. But I was definitely not going for that since the day before I have a day off, they always keep me in for 1 hour extra. So if I would be finished on Friday at 12, they would come up with things that need to be finished that day just a few minutes before 12, resulting in me not leaving until 1-ish. I know because when I do 9 hours on Thursday, I'm allowed to leave 1 hour earlier on Friday, which I always have to say that I'm leaving at least 2 hours earlier otherwise I'm not out on time, and they start to complain about me doing overtime.
And the worst part is....half the time I'm still doing nothing. So if they would give me those tasks when I ask for them, or first thing in the morning so I have the whole day to work on it, it would be fine.

Well....time for me to paint some more. Planned to get started like 4/5 hours ago but got distracted with wedding cards. Finished the prototype though (based on

I have the feeling we've already taking care of so much for the wedding, but at the same time I have the feeling I haven't arranged anything and am forgetting stuff. I've checked check lists so I know I'm not forgetting stuff but that doesn't mean that's how I feel. Got the guest list almost finished (but still got 2 months before the cards need to be send out). Got the thank you gifts almost finished (only need to buy chocolates). Ring is in the making, dress is in the making. Borrowing a petticoat from my cousin. Getting the shoes next Thursday. Got a hair and make up lady. The boyfriend is working on the car. He hasn't arranged his suit though. Official location is arranged (not the one we want because they postponed the decision from April 1st to July 1st, still enough time that we can change though, so fingers crossed), dinner and party location arranged.

The girls are working on my bachelorette party since I heard from friend A that friend B had something. Since A and B normally don't do stuff together but also with C and/or me. And most of the time if C or me aren't there we still know about it. So they're working on it. A C and me got the bachelorette party for B arranged though.

We also know that they are working on the bachelor party for the boyfriend, since my brother is becoming friends with our friends, which under normal circumstances would be highly unlikely.

I've been trying with logical thinking/planning when mine would be held but I'm not getting there. The guys for the bachelor party of the boyfriend of B have filled out a schedule for who's available when. But that only leaves a few weekends for the boyfriends bachelor party and also mine since I'm guessing the girlfriends of the guys are not available as well. This must sound very confusing but 6 out of 7 people for the bachelor party of B's boyfriend are also invited to the boyfriends bachelor party and then our brothers/boyfriends of sisters. And the girlfriends of the invitees for the boyfriends bachelor party are invited for mine. So with the schedule the guys filled out for B's boyfriend bachelor party, we can cross off different weekends (there's no weekend that all the others are unavailable though, and the guys wouldn't think that far ahead so that we could suspect anything).

Ok I've been rambling long enough.

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Wedding and other stuff

Didn't expect me to be back that fast now did you? (although it's been over 2 weeks)

THE dress has been found, it needs alterations but don't need to go in for a fitting until 2 months prior to the wedding. But mom and dad are off to the US in June so will be going in for a fitting before so mom has the dress fresh in her mind (and a piece of the fabric with her) to do some shopping. It's so much cheaper there than it's here, it's really absurd.

The ring is also in the works. The boyfriend won't be wearing a ring so only need 1. Found one I really liked but of course it had to be one of the expensive kind. Friends suggested a goldsmith in a town nearby and he's going to make it from scratch with the image I gave him, and that for half of the price. So hopefully it's a good deal. Have only heard positive things about him so I'm good.

Got the hairdresser and make up artist taken care of. And I know how I want to do my invites as well as the thank you gifts. It's all going to be handmade.

I believe work never changes for me. I can change jobs but I'm never happy or so. I like my colleagues and the customer service part of my job (although there are idiots, you won't believe). But half the time I'm like what should I do? Hmm...let's try to get past this level in candy crush. You'd think that most companies got facebook blocked, but they can't here since we also work with facebook and twitter and the like (muahahaha). And when I do have some stuff to do, I'm like I rather get past this level in candy crush. But hopefully tomorrow I'll discuss my workload with my new "boss" and I'll be working for at least 20 hours a week (I'll be present 40 hours but going from like working only a few hours a day to 4 would already be a whole improvement). It's just that this work is sucking up my motivation and enthusiasm. Half the time I'm in a blegh mood. Not good and it definitely needs to change.

Next month I'm having an evaluation with my manager and in December I asked for the possibility to work 36 hours a week for the same salary (every other Friday off), and I'm going hear now it that's a go or no go. My "boss" said that they should just give me a raise and keep me on for 40hrs, but I believe I'd rather go for the 36 hours. Maybe even change it to 4 days 9hours (not immediately but after some time). And then slowly change that to a few hours at home and less at the office, and then when I do have kids I only work 3 days (3 at the office or 2 at the office and 1 at home, or maybe when possible even more hours at home, just to get the optimal out of it, being a mom and not sticking the kids in daycare all the time)

Well...that's it for now. Don't know if anyone is still reading. If you are, hope you're doing ok and give me a shout.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Peeking around the corner

Today the Boyfriend comes back into the house, after getting the garbage can from the street, and he's like "Honey, honey, do you know what day it is?" (and he said it the way a kid comes running towards you when something big is going to happen) I simply reply "Today we're engaged for 1 month." Happily "Yes." 

Yup we got engaged exactly 1 month ago. And we've got approximately 6 months to go. Busy trying to arrange everything. The control freak in me would have liked to have been done by know - yes I know you can't arrange everything in 1 month (At least I can't). We've got the date and the time for the official ceremony but not the location. Well....we do have a location since we're not yet allowed to choose a place of our own. Currently you can only choose one of the town council appointed locations. Some say that they will clear it in April, some in July, but for now since the decision hasn't been made we can only choose out of the appointed locations. We've already got a back up, or rather our first choice, lined up for when they do clear it.

 Other things we've taken care of or almost taken care of are the photographer and the ring. Yes ring singular, my fiancĂ© (ugh you can't say it without sounding like a snob) will not be wearing a ring, nor a necklace with a ring (or without), nor a watch. He works with his hand the whole day and moves around every few hours. So he's not wanting one. I've found mine, I just have to order it. The photographer is a done deal. Quite expensive but we've spoken to more expensive options as well. And he'll start in the morning with the bride getting ready and he'll leave halfway through the party (around 12hrs). One photographer was more expensive and would only take pics for 5 hrs,

 I've been checking dresses online and the websites I most of the time am viewing are located in the US with US prices. OMG it's just because a ticket flying to and from the States is so expensive, but otherwise I'm buying one over there. I've seen so many gorgeous and beautiful dresses for less than $400. And when I was at a dress shop last Saturday the lady was giving us a "you only have a budget of €1000?" look. I did fit on gorgeous dresses but I'm wondering if I could just order one in the US, ship it over and have a seamstress adjust it.

 The location for dinner and party hasn't yet been decided. We've got 2 options. I like option 1 better and the Boyfriend option 2. Although for option 2 we do have to have a talk first since they dinner menu is with stuff I wouldn't even order in a restaurant and the platters at the party are expensive little snacks that would hardly have anyone's interest. So option 2 is more expensive and the hall for the party isn't decorated and it doesn't come with the venue, so more costs. Currently our thoughts are on doing the dinner at option 2 and then the party at option 1. I know this means going from one location to the next but I won't be driving anyway and as far as internet has told me, I should be lucky that he's helping.

 Ow and we've got our man and maid of honour. Although we don't call them that nor do we have to have one each. We need a minimum of 2 people who sign our marriage agreement as well, and a maximum of four. I've got 1 brother, he's got 2 sisters and 1 brother. So we've asked those 4 to be our "witnesses".

 Well...I hope that I don't leave it by this one post and that I'm back more often. Not only with wedding updates but also with work and everything else (although arranging the wedding does take up most of the time).

Thursday, October 18, 2012

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Friday, April 06, 2012

still there

My life still hasn't got more quiet. Or me having more free time.

Currently I'm spending every other Monday at a friends place because he's a Fysiotherapist and he's helping me with my legs and back.

Tuesdays is spend with the Boyfriend. As are Wednesdays after my dance class.
Thursday is a bit of relax evening but I still have the feeling I never get anything done on that evening.

The weekend is spend doing the obligated visits to the family and grandparents. I don't mind visiting them but it does take loads of your time. And I'm doing a course of Labour Law for work. Which is coming along fine. Hope to finish the chapters this long weekend and then only have to study. Got an examtraining at the end of April and the exam on May 10th. Can't wait until it's done.

Already planned some holidays. I'm off the last week of May and the first week of June. We're having an unplanned vacation. The boyfriend thinks I need to know that you don't have to plan everything. And we're going with friends to Italy the first week of July. And then we still have some days left (a few weeks even) for the rest of the year.

We're still looking for a house. Closer to buying one than before. But my parents aren't really sure about it yet. The living area is livable (if that's a word), and we just have to adjust it to our likings. But the rest of the house (it used to be a part of farm so extra space for chickens and horses) is a work in progress. And my parents think it will be too much money, and that I'll have to compromise on holidays because that money will be better spend on the house. And on the one hand that's true, but the boyfriend says that we can choose where we spend our money on and it's not that it's the house that needs to be repaired. But then again our visions on holidays are completely different. I'd like to go to USA, South Africa, Australia, China, see the world. He'd like that too but if he doesn't that's ok as well. He used to stay in the Netherlands for holidays, which is fine too but just not for me.

But with bikini season just around the corner (although Baskins and Robbins is closer :D), I want to lose a bit of weight. I've been wanting to lose weight for a few years now but never had the discipline to do it. Why starve yourself? Well....I'm not gonna starve myself but I'm going to be a bit more active in not snacking. Like when I get home from work and while I'm waiting for dinner to be ready I could be eating a cookie, or easter eggs, or m&ms. I'm trying to watch that now.

And of course only watching what you eat won't help. So I'm trying to exercise more. Got a wii after Christmas but had to disconnect it because some guys would come in to repaint the ceiling. It has been postponed, they should have painted in the beginning of Jan but still haven't been (something with one of the painter's wife). Haven't connected the wii since. So I just should connect it, it's not that it's loads of work. And I'm doing my fysiotherapy exercises every evening. And after the exam in May I'll have my weekends free to do more walking and cycling.

Hope to not be away for so long.

Sunday, January 29, 2012


I'm still alive only very very very busy. Work's crazy (as always). Get paid to work 40 hours a week. But since it's too busy to take decent breaks we're working at least 45 hours a week. In my free time I have to do a course on labour law. If I pass it before my contract is due, I might get a fixed contract instead of a (half) year one.

Boyfriend and I are still looking for a place. It's getting ridiculous, we're still in the top 20. What if you move in together, get married and divorce within 10 years, how are you going to find a place? You probably won't have enough money to buy a house or private let something, but the social system is not helping either since a "simple" divorce doesn't count as urgent (you need police reports to cut the line).

Boyfriend has finally decided to look for a real job. He was working shitty hours, for a shitty pay, and shitty times. One week he'd work 20 hours but the next he'd be home for the whole week. Coming week he has to work 16 hours (if it's under 4 hours of work he'll get paid for four hours, and he has to built and take down a set on 2 days).

Apparently in the Netherlands the bride and groom can have a total of 4 best men/maids of honour. One of my best friends is getting married and he chose his brother to be his best men, that meant that she could have 3 maids of honour so she didn't have to pick. We're now trying to get the bachelorette party together. Won't make it too wild. Won't get a stripper because that's too much out of everyone's comfort zone. We thought of going to a show like the Chippendales but of course they aren't in the neighbourhood in the weeks prior to the wedding. So we're thinking of buying aprons with male torso's on it. And we'll do a cake decorating workshop and a pole dancing class. And we'll end with food. And afterwards if people still want to continue to party that's possible but won't be in the total price. We're only with a small group which makes it rather expensive if you have to pay for it all.

Not only my best friend will get married in the next few months but also one of my cousins (the first one on my dad's side). Talking about wedding stuff makes you realise a wedding is bleeping expensive. And who will you invite, who won't you invite. And if you invite B you should also invite X Y and Z, so where do you draw the line. I'd love my big fancy wedding but I only want people there who I want there not because I'm obligated to invite them. The boyfriend doesn't care about the party he only cares about the (old fashioned) idea of marriage. And that's why he one day wants to marry me. So we might just elope. Do a photo shoot in gorgeous wedding outfits and send that card, we got married, to everyone. Then I've got my beautiful dress and none of the hassle.
What's your opinion about it all?

Okay back to Labour Law.

Saturday, December 24, 2011